0 Tips for Talking to Children about Aurora Shooting

By David Fassler, M.D.

Parents and caretakers are faced with the challenge of discussing the recent tragic shooting in Aurora, Colorado with children. Although these may be difficult conversations, they are also important. There are no “right” or “wrong” ways to talk with children about such traumatic events. However, here are some suggestions that may be helpful:

• Create an open and supportive environment where children know they can ask questions. At the same time, it's best not to force children to talk about things unless and until they're ready. 

• Give children honest answers and information. Children will usually know, or eventually find out, if you're “making things up.” It may affect their ability to trust you or your reassurances in the future.

• Use words and concepts children can understand. Gear your explanations to the child's age, language, and developmental level.

• Be prepared to repeat information and explanations several times. Some information may be hard for them to accept or understand. Asking the same question over and over may also be a way for a child to ask for reassurance.

• Acknowledge and validate the child's thoughts, feelings, and reactions. Let them know that you think their questions and concerns are important and appropriate. 

• Remember that children tend to personalize situations. For example, they may worry about their own safety or the safety of friends when going to the movies or other public areas.

• Let children know that lots of people are helping the families affected by the recent shooting. 

• Children learn from watching their parents. They are very interested in how you respond to local and national events. They also learn from listening to your conversations with other adults.

• Don't let children watch too much television / news coverage with frightening images. The repetition of such scenes can be disturbing and confusing. 

• Children who have experienced trauma or losses in the past are particularly vulnerable to prolonged or intense reactions to news or images of violent incidents. These children may need extra support and attention.

• Children who are preoccupied with questions or concerns about safety should be evaluated by a trained and qualified mental health professional. Other signs that a child may need additional help include ongoing sleep disturbances; intrusive thoughts or worries; recurring fears about death, leaving parents, or going out to public areas. If these behaviors persist, ask your child's pediatrician, family physician, or school counselor to help arrange an appropriate referral.

• Although parents may follow the news with close scrutiny, most children just want to be children. They may not want to think about or discuss violent events.  They'd rather play ball, climb trees, or ride bikes.

A senseless, violent crime is not easy for anyone to comprehend or accept. Understandably, some young children may feel frightened or confused. As parents and caring adults, we can best help by listening and responding in an honest, consistent, and supportive manner.

Fortunately, most children -- even those exposed to trauma -- are quite resilient. However, by creating an open environment where they feel free to ask questions, we can help them cope with stressful events and experiences and reduce the risk of lasting emotional difficulties.

David Fassler, M.D., is a child and adolescent psychiatrist practicing in Burlington, Vermont.  He is also a clinical professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Vermont College of Medicine.

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0 Lessons Learned in the Wake of Tragedy

By Gina Newsome Duncan, M.D.





Dr. Molly McVoy recently blogged about the horrific shootings of Representative Gabrielle Giffords and others on Saturday, January 8, 2011. This tragic incident has sparked widespread national debate about all aspects of the case, including mental health treatment in this country and links between violence and mental illness.



The fact is that most people with mental illness are not violent, and that violence is most often caused by those who are not mentally ill. However, this incident does provide an opportunity for us as a nation, to seriously consider the state of our mental health services. If we examine it carefully, we can possibly prevent further acts of violence, and also think about how we help those who are in need of mental health treatment.



It is an unfortunate reality that mental illness remains largely shrouded in stigma, and tragic events such as this often help to only deepen that stigma in the minds of the public. As a result of this stigma, many people live with unnecessary shame and suffering, not seeking the help that they need. Most often, the primary victim is the person living with the illness, and by extension, their loved ones. Very rarely, however, untreated illness can lead to tragic consequences that reach far beyond the person with the illness and his or her family.



Like physical illness, mental illness has the best outcome when recognized and treated early. We should let this tragedy be a call to become more proactive in addressing issues of mental illness in our communities.

There are several important steps that can be taken:



1) As a public, we can become more informed about the signs, symptoms and treatment of mental illness.



2) We can all work to  destigmatize mental illness. The American Psychiatric Association’s Council on Communications is actively involved using this blog and with other activities.



3) Educate yourself on how mental health is funded in your community and let your vote count when issues of mental health funding are on the ballot.





It is true that there are rare situations in which a person with a severe mental illness may become violent. In most cases, this violence will be self-directed in the form of suicidal acts, but in rare instances, it may be directed toward others as well. What can be done in those situations?



1) If you are personally experiencing a mental illness and are having thoughts of harming yourself or others, it is important that you seek help from a doctor, therapist, or 911 immediately.



2) If you are the friend or family member of a person experiencing a severe mental illness and you are concerned due to actions or statements they have made that they may be a danger to themselves or others, it is important that you seek help from a doctor, therapist, or by calling 911 immediately.



a. Be as detailed about your concerns as possible.



b. Do not let your concern go unheard, put it in writing.



c. Firearms and weapons should be kept sealed and locked, or ideally, removed from the home.



d. Unfortunately, many communities do not have adequate crisis prevention resources. Familiarize yourself with the procedures your community does have for involuntary hospitalization. You can get this information by calling your local health department, hospital department of psychiatry, emergency room, community mental health center, family physician, or police department.

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